Temprament

I was finding a decent topic actually not that decent but most importantly a serious one. Temperament is basically a human nature which affects our behavior permanently. Yeah I know this is a definition. When we look around ourselves most of us have a very bad temperament including myself. I am not going to blame society or our culture and a bunch of crap we always use to defend ourselves. I think we should not defend ourselves where we know we are wrong because we are not perfect. We are not angels. We all have flaws and being an accountable person we have to admit, and try to improve ourselves. Now coming back to the topic.

The thing which really affects our temperament are our personal relationships. These relationship could be of a brother-sister, mother-daughter, and many others as well. In short we can say our family relationships. When the father is so strict that his daughter cannot share things with him because of his strict behavior. When the father stops showing his love to his kids, then how can we expect children to behave ideally? Parents stop sharing their love, their attention, and most importantly their time. When kids don’t receive love and attention from their parents, then obviously they start expecting it from other people. This could be their friends and strangers too. Relationships are really common these days, and parents usually blame their children for this. Henceforth the typical drama starts from here. They never realize that the situation arising is not because they love strangers, but due to the fact that they don’t get our love and attention. I am not saying that I am in favor of these typical and non-practical relationships, but we can’t blame our kids for this, because family is the root cause over here.

In sha’Allah when I will be a Father one day, I will give all my time to my children so that they will feel proud and happy. They should feel this, because they have their parents in times when they have no one. Trust me there’s no best friend in our life other than our parents and siblings, but I prefer parents because they know you more than anyone. This is one of the major factor that is an effect of bad temperament.